Leave your ego, lower your pride. This is the advice I receive from many, but it’s something that is easy to say but very difficult to do. Don’t you agree?
I consider my inner circle of friends as my family. They are one of the many treasures that God has indulged me.
The past few days, there have been things that spun out of control. Perhaps, it’s because of misunderstanding. Indeed, the saying ‘familiarity breeds contempt’ might be true.
I am not the kind of person who apologizes first even though I know the fault is mine. But what does the bible say?
When pride comes, then comes shame; but with humble is wisdom. Proverbs 11:2
And so, with what happened the past few days, reflecting on it, I thought I’d share the things I learned.
3 Things I’ve Learned after that Conflict
1. Disconnect your emotions from the problem
The heart is deceitful above all things, And desperately wicked; who can know it?
Jeremiah 17:9, NLT
Talk to the person personally.
Is your relationship more valuable than your pride?
Then take the first step, in humility.
If you are at the highest peak of your emotions then you can schedule it when you’re done composing yourself. As soon as possible.
And “don’t sin by letting anger control you.” Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry,
Ephesians 4:26, NLT
2. Decide to Forgive
On the cross, even Jesus himself decided to forgive even He has all the power to trample down His enemies yet He chose not to.
Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they don’t know what they are doing.” And the soldiers gambled for his clothes by throwing dice. Luke 23:34 NLT
Forgiveness is a decision. It is not instantaneous.
But if we call ourselves a follower of Christ, it is expected.
Yes it is not easy but if we choose to forgive, it brings healing to our soul.
3. Desire to understand than of being understood
Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. James 1:19 NLT
“I would rather be disagreed with by someone who understands me, than to be agreed with by someone who does not understand me” – James D. Glass
Each one of us has its own roots and what we react to is just a trigger at some point.
The question I am always asking in my mind, “Where is he/she coming from”.
With this kind of attitude, understanding comes easy. Patience and kindness is a natural by-product.
We, as human beings have differences, disappointments and hurts in the past but what matters is how we respond and how we value each other as Christ values us the most.
I am not perfect.
I make mistakes, most of those I am unaware of.
Acknowledging my mistakes is the key to me becoming better every day.
And for you, too.